Single in the city
Pick up or put down?
Recently my single girlfriends and I were out for dinner and drinks on a Saturday night. Of course we were at our favourite watering hole; The Old Triangle. Let me tell you ladies, Saturday night is apparently the night men in general vacate their homes after playoff hockey games and head out with their buddies. I've never seen the ratio be so much in our favour as it was this Saturday night (my single girlfriends will kill me for writing that because they said it was great to be one of the few females in the place).
Anyway, the night started off like any other night until one of us spotted a cute guy sitting at the table beside ours. Then of course there was the band who the others seemed to be pining over, but that's a whole other story.
After careful consideration and a bit of banter back and forth between my friends and I, we decided it would be fun for her to buy him a drink and have the waitress send it over. I had told them about the time I'd done just that very gesture and in my case it was well-received; the guy got up and walked over to my table and we talked the rest of the night. There was absolutely no chemistry mind you once he opened his mouth, but that's beside the point. My point is that I put the pickup out there and it worked.
So she ordered him a drink. We discovered he was drinking Red Bull and vodka and by the time he'd gotten the one she paid for he had probably had a few. The waitress indicated to him that the drink was from my friend and walked away. Of course I tried to catch all of this out of the corner of my eye without looking too suspicious.
And then we waited. And waited. And waited a little more. Nothing. He wasn't looking at our table, glancing at her or even making the slightest move towards her. Nothing. At this point I told them that he had about five more minutes to step up his game or else he'd blow his chances with an incredible girl with balls bigger than his obviously. This is where the tricky part comes in; how do girls know when to draw the line between balls-y and overly-eager or desperate? Some guys will say that they like a girl to take the initiative and put their pickup out there, others will say it takes away the fun for them because men like the thrill of the chase. Other guys tell me that it helps take the pressure off of them to make the first move. How the hell are we supposed to know the difference?
During our waiting game process I had left the table for a few minutes and on my way back was stopped by a guy who stuck out his hand and said; "My name is Josh. What's your name?" I told him and he replied with; "Well, Jenn are you single? 'Cause if you are, I'd like to introduce you to my friends here who are all RCMP officers and SINGLE." We joked and laughed for a few minutes while I shook their hands and learned their names. I was told to head back to my table, grab my drinks and my friends and join them at the back of the bar. I smiled and was on my way. Say it with me ladies...NEXT! That's how it is sometimes when things are looking a little off, suddenly there's a shift and wow, they're up again. Just like that.
Back at the table I noticed there were a lot more apple martinis present than when I had left a few short minutes ago. Turns out cute Red Bull and Vodka guy had bought all of us a round. Redemption! I was impressed. Now what were we to do? I whispered to the girls that we were invited to join some of our city's finest at the back of the bar and of course, they were game. On our way back we all thanked Red Bull Vodka guy for the drinks and made our way to the cute boys in blue. He re-thanked my friend for his drink and said he'd catch up with us later.
Just as we made our way through the crowd I spotted Josh and his friends surrounded by three very tall, very gorgeous women.
Perfect. See that's what happens in this town, you leave men unattended for too long and they get scooped up by the overwhelming amount of beautiful single women. And just our luck too, there's about a handful and a half of women in the bar that night and they'd swooned in on fresh meat. (I realize that metaphor is a bit graphic, but it's strictly for emphasis only).
We did end up chatting with them briefly however, but nothing came of it. They bolted mid-way through the evening and headed for some dancing with other gorgeous girls at The O2. Red Bull and vodka guy did however make his way back over to us and was pretty smitten on my friend. I do believe he's attempting to make date plans with her as of late.
The events of the evening though did strike up a great topic of conversation that lasted the duration of the weekend and I have been questioning my single female friends ever since. How do they feel about putting out the pickup action? Some girls gave examples of writing their numbers on napkins and while walking by slipping it in front of their crush. Others mentioned how they had the band play a song for (and I quote) "That incredible hottie in the corner". One girl told me that she had her trainer at the gym pass a note to a guy on the treadmill only to have the guy look at it, grimace and not even acknowledge her. Ouch. Kudos to her for putting it out there!
So guys, whether or not you're a fan of the balls-y girl or the girl that sits back and waits for men to hit on her, just remember one thing; it feels exactly the same way to you as it does to us to get rejected. So next time you're fortunate enough to have a balls-y girl put out her pickup, try not to put it down...too hard at least.
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